THERAPY IN LONDON
MY PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE
ISSUES YOU CAN BRING TO COUNSELLING
People come into counselling for different reasons. Listed below are some of the issues people bring to therapy.
This may be at work, with friends, in the family, or with a partner, and can involve feeling you are not able to talk and you end up arguing instead, or on the other hand simply withdraw. But whatever the way you are dealing with the problem, there’ll be a repeating pattern, or what I sometimes call a ‘negative dance’ in play.
An Emotional Crises
Counselling can be helpful at a time of emotional crisis such as the sudden loss of a job, a bereavement, ending of a relationship, or simply feeling unable to cope.
Identity and Difference
Doubts about your identity and issues arising out of dealing with 'difference', or you may feel ‘different’ and are not sure what to do about that. This may be to do with ethnicity, sexual orientation, being bullied, gender, disability or in some way simply feeling you’re not being accepted for who you are.
Wanting to develop your potential, finding out about yourself and discovering a more creative and fulfilling way to live your life.
This can cover a wide range of problems such as eating disorders; depression; difficulty sleeping; stress and anxiety; obsessional compulsive behaviour; problems relating to drugs and alcohol; getting easily angry; physical and emotional abuse; grieving, feeling out of control and emotionally related health problems
Here the issues and problems will usually be less specific, but may include a sense of loneliness, or a lack of purpose, or feeling dissatisfied with life even though outwardly things are going well.
Starting Counselling isn't easy and people usually come into therapy for a specific reason, but you may find that other issues arise as the therapy progresses.
HOW COUNSELLING CAN HELP YOU
When you come to see a therapist the ‘problem’ you are describing often feels like it is just happening to you, rather than something you have a say in or control over. Counselling provides a place where you can talk about what is troubling you without the shame or guilty feelings that can be a part of the 'problem'. Getting it out in the open so you can step back and have a look at what's going on, will help you understand how this is affecting your relationships and the situations you are facing, and the anxiety you may well be feeling at times
A part of this process is becoming more aware of how past relationships can play out in the present. This allows you to develop a more mindful attitude towards yourself, rather than just reacting when you’re feeling anxious and stressed.
But an important part of counselling is that as it progresses and you become more aware and confident, you can think about new ways to address the issues you are facing and start to make real changes in your world outside the counselling. Last of all, in this process you will have someone there, travelling with you as you start to find a more appropriate and better way to get on with your life.
Find out more