THERAPY IN LONDON
Life can sometime throw at us more than we are able make sense of. This can affect you and your relationships, whether at work or in your personal life. A loss of self-confidence may lead to some critical, negative thinking. You find yourself behaving in a way you don't like, or in the same 'old situation', feeling anxious and stressed. You know you don't want to be there, yet somehow it's happened again.
When you come to see the therapist the ‘problem’ or the symptom you are describing often feels like it is just happening to you, rather than something you have a say in or control over. Counselling gives you a place where you can talk about what is happening in your life without the shame or guilty feelings that can be a part of the 'problem'. Getting it out in the open so you can have a look at what's going on, helps you understand how this is affecting your relationships and the situations you are facing, and also the anxiety you may well be feeling at times.
A part of this process is becoming more aware of how past relationships can play out in the present. This allows you to develop a mindful attitude towards yourself, rather than just reacting when you feel anxious and stressed.
But an important part of counselling, is that as it progresses, and you become more aware and confident, you can think about new ways to address the issues you are facing and start to make changes in the world outside counselling. Last of all, in this process you have someone there, travelling with you as you start to find a more appropriate and better way to get on with your life.
ISSUES YOU CAN BRING TO COUNSELLING
Counselling almost always starts with the ‘problem’ or what is sometimes called the symptom – feeling stressed, panic attacks, not sleeping well, thinking negatively about yourself, obsessing about things, procrastinating, often feeling tired and a myriad other ways of describing what is troubling you. But underneath the immediate pain or unhappiness is what I sometimes call an 'emotional logic'.
What is that tendency which keeps you in a relationship that is not working, why do you keep obsessing about certain things, what’s making you so anxious at times, why are you very critical of yourself and often feel you must do more than you need to? It is these subjective 'logics' or tendencies which can have an addictive quality, in the sense that you keep getting drawn into them, which the therapy explores. And it is by exploring them and understanding what is going on that paves the way for making real changes in your life.
THE FIRST STEP
If you’re on this website, you have probably been thinking about the difficulties you're facing and wondering what to do. Why not take that first step if you're feeling stuck and want to get on with your life. Counselling helps you understand the issues you’re facing, see them in a different light, and find there is another way forward.
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