Kevin Rose -The Ashbourne Practice
Counselling and Psychotherapy
Experienced Counsellor and Psychotherapist
North and North West London, Finchley, Barnet,
Hendon, Golders Green and Southgate
Sometimes life throws at us more than we can make sense of and this can affect your relationships whether at work or in your personal life. A loss of self-confidence may lead to some critical, negative thinking. You find yourself in the same 'old situation', feeling anxious and stressed, know you don't want to be there, and yet somehow it's happened again. Talking to a counsellor helps you understand what's going on and make changes to the way you deal with these situations.
I am an experienced psychotherapist and counsellor registered with the UK Council for Psychotherapy. I qualified as a therapist in 1991 and over the last 25 years I have worked with many different clients who have come to see me with a wide range of problems. But I think, once you go a little deeper, the issues people bring to counselling are often about their relationships, both past and present.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) or Open-ended Counselling?
When you come to see a counsellor there is usually a specific problem and you can work with this in different ways. A more solution based approach like CBT Counselling can be helpful in understanding how critical you have been about yourself. As you become more mindful, you learn how to challenge this way of thinking and work on practical strategies that help you deal with situations in a more creative way.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy which can last up to twelve sessions, gives you the tools to do this. But it can take longer. Then it's helpful to be in a supportive relationship where you can work through your problems as they occur over a period of time. Having someone travelling with and understanding what you are struggling with, can make all the difference.
The point is to make friends with who we already are'
How Therapy Helps
Someone coming into therapy will often see it as a way of getting rid of their problem. This quote is really saying you can't do this. But once you understand how you are 'misusing' your talents, you can make changes and use them in a creative way. As you do this you will become more self-confident about your relationships and more able, for example, to handle stress at work.
Counselling is a chance to find out about what I sometimes call your Subjective Logic. This is a particular way of relating to situations that makes sense to you. But from a more practical perspective doesn't make sense because it leads to an outcome where you end up feeling distressed and unhappy.
Feedback From Clients
The 1st Step
Counselling helps with a range of issues, such as a loss of confidence, social anxiety, relationships, negative thoughts, or stress at work. If you have been finding things difficult, why don't you take that first step you've probably been thinking about for some time now. It is helpful to talk and there's no obligation to take it further.
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