for Relationships, Stress, Anxiety and Confidence Issues

‘It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case, you fail by default.’ J K Rowling

Experienced Counsellor and Psychotherapist, North and North West London, Finchley, Barnet, Hendon, Golders Green and West Hampstead

Sometimes life throws at us more than we can make sense of and this can affect your relationships whether at work or in your personal life. A loss of self-confidence may lead to some critical, negative thinking. You find yourself in the same ‘old situation’, feeling anxious and stressed, know you don’t want to be there, and yet somehow it’s happened again. Talking to a counsellor helps you understand what’s going on and make changes in the way you get on with your life

My Experience

Hello, my name is Kevin Rose and I am an experienced psychotherapist and counsellor registered with the UK Council for Psychotherapy. My first training was as a psychodynamic psychotherapist. But as you develop your practice you come to realise there isn’t one approach that fits all. You add to your original training as the years go by and realise different approaches suit different clients at different times

But there are some key principles to what are called ‘the talking therapies’ and if you’d like to find out more click here.

Feedback from a recent client:

Kevin helped me change my outlook. I’d tried different types of therapy, but they had never got to the root of the issue. After seeing Kevin I was able to deal with the obsessive and anxious thoughts that had been bothering me.

Counselling helped me see you can’t just get rid of your problem. That’s what I wanted to do. I was really ashamed of myself and what I’d been doing. But as we talked I could see how I’d turned, what we called my ‘obsessing side’, against myself. It was such a surprise. I started to accept who I was, and it was OK.

Kevin’s kind but firm approach in our sessions was challenging. But he did put me at ease and we were even able to laugh sometimes. I also knew I could contact him if I wanted some help again and that was alright.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy or a more open-ended approach?

When you come to see a counsellor there is usually a specific problem and you can work with this in different ways. A more solution based approach like CBT Counselling can be helpful in understanding how critical you have been about yourself. As you become more mindful, you learn how to challenge this way of thinking and work on practical strategies that help you deal with situations in a more creative way.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy which can last up to twelve sessions, gives you the tools to do this. But it can take longer. Then it’s helpful to be in a supportive relationship where you can work through your problems as they occur over a period of time. Having someone travelling with and understanding what you are struggling with, can make all the difference.

To find our more about Cognitive Behaviour Therapy click here

‘The point is not to change ourselves.
The point is to make friends with who we already are’.

How Therapy Helps

Someone coming into therapy will often see it as a way of getting rid of their problem. This quote is really saying you can’t do this. But once you understand how you are ‘misusing’ your talents, you can make changes and use them in a more creative way. As you do this you can become more confident about your relationships and more able to handle the situations that have been troubling you.

Often someone comes into therapy when they realise they have reached an impasse or a particular ‘knot’ they can’t undo. From a practical perspective it doesn’t make sense the difficulties you’re getting into, but in spite of your best intentions the same situation or outcome keeps arising. If you’d like to find out more about how this can happen go to My Subjective Logic

Taking the 1st step

Counselling helps with a range of issues, such as a loss of confidence, social anxiety, relationships, negative thoughts, or stress at work. If you have been finding things difficult, why don’t you take that first step you’ve probably been thinking about for some time now. It is helpful to talk and there’s no obligation to take it further.

I do not charge for the first session and if you decide to continue I have a sliding scale of fees of £40 to £65 per session.

Clinic Location:

Finchley, Barnet
North and North West London

Call: 07931 395225